Hello. So today some drama is happening in real-time. First, I need to fill you in on the backstory.

I (F21) work in a grocery store as one of the cashier leaders. I've worked here since December 2023. In May, I started talking more to one of my female colleagues, whom I had a crush on since I first started working there, and we became good friends.

In late June, I got acquainted with her brother, who also works there. Before knowing he was her brother, I just remembered him staring at me when I walked by but never saying hello, which creeped me out. Later, he got promoted to a dotcom leader, which meant he had to come to our information counter during home deliveries. I found it odd that he never said hello, so I called him out on it.

One day, while walking through the storage area, he sped up to talk to me. He asked how things were going with the cash registers and whether I was going on a break. We ended up having lunch together and became closer.

People noticed our chemistry and assumed he was my boyfriend. I thought he was funny, kind, and charming, and I developed a crush on him. But then he casually mentioned having a fiancé, which felt like a stab in the heart. One day, I needed a ride home, and he offered to take me to his house so I could sleep over with his sister. When I arrived, I met his fiancé, Belinda, who made sure I knew I wasn’t welcome.

The next morning, he told me he wanted to be friends but only if she allowed him to. Apparently, she already hated me.

A week before their wedding, I visited his sister with my best friend. We were having fun until he joined us. At one point, he threw a rubber ball, which accidentally hit my eye. He came close, stroked my cheeks, tickled my feet, and fondled my knees. I was stunned and didn’t know how to react.

Later, we were chatting on Discord, and he made a joke saying I looked like his wife from Wish. When I asked what he meant, he quickly tried to cover it up, saying his wife was the most beautiful woman in the world. The comment hurt my feelings.

The next day at work, I ignored him. He asked if I was mad, and I made it clear that I was. He apologized, and I tried to move on. I extended my hand for a handshake as a sign of peace, but he unexpectedly hugged me tight and lifted me off the ground. I was shocked. After that, he continued to tease and flirt, but nothing major happened.

One day, he was acting weird and I asked him, "What was wrong?" He explained that his wife is very jealous of me and doesn’t want us to be friends. What struck me as weird was that whenever I told him that I don’t think she has to be worried, he told me, "Well, of course not!" in a tone that was overly insistent.

After that, he was becoming more and more distant from me. I still to this day don’t understand it.

Before Christmas, we gave each other a gift, and it seemed like everything was returning to normal. Over the holidays, I got a call from his sister, who was together with his wife in her room. They were clearly a bit drunk, and Halina, the wife wanted to bash her husband with me.

A few days later, when I met him at work, he told me that he was mad at me. He accused me of telling his wife about the fact that he is asking me to go to lunch together and is waiting for me.

One day, I had enough and walked up to him and straight up asked him, what he thinks about me and whether he really hates me so much, like his wife says. He was flabbergasted and told me that is simply not true and that he likes me and enjoys spending time together.

I don’t know how to feel or what to do. I realize that the smartest thing would be to let him go, but something is pulling me towards him, I don’t know what. He isn’t handsome, charming, neither kind nor interesting. I would love to close this chapter in my life, but it seems difficult and even impossible. Maybe I know him from my past life, I can’t explain my interest. I don’t know what to do.